Confidence isn’t something you’re born with. Forget that myth. Confidence is built. It’s earned. And the best part? It comes with your A-Game.
Confidence Is Built
Here’s the real deal: confidence comes from competence. And competence? It’s what happens when you show up and deliver, over and over again. When you put in the work, when you face challenges head-on, and when you go all-in on your A-Game.
Think about it: every time you step up to the plate, you’re sharpening your skills. You’re figuring out what works, what doesn’t, and you’re getting better. That’s what competence is. And competence is where confidence grows.
But confidence doesn’t just come from being good at something. It’s deeper than that. It comes from courage. The courage to push boundaries, to step into situations where you might not know everything, and still go for it. And where does that courage come from?
Commitment.
You don’t just wake up one day confident. You commit to your A-Game—to a meaningful goal. You commit to something bigger than yourself. Because when you’re locked in on that goal, when you’re determined to make it happen, confidence naturally follows. Not because you’re chasing confidence for its own sake, but because you’re chasing the goal that actually matters.
An impromptu genius isn’t confident because they’re naturally born with it. They’re confident because they’ve made a habit of showing up and delivering. They’ve mastered the art of stepping into the unknown and making things happen. And they’re not doing it for themselves—they’re doing it for the audience. For the shared dream they’re trying to achieve together.
Here’s the thing: your confidence is contagious. When you’re locked into your A-Game, when you know you’ve put in the work, people feel it. They sense that you’re not just talking to fill the room. You’re speaking from a place of purpose. You’re driven by something bigger than you. And when your audience sees that? They believe in you. They trust you. Because they can see your confidence is real—it’s earned.
You don’t just speak because you’re confident. You’re confident because you’re doing you A-Game. You’re confident because you’ve committed to a meaningful goal and you’re bringing your audience along with you.
And that’s why your confidence spreads. When you’re playing at your highest level, when you’re focused on delivering results, you lift everyone around you. They don’t just see your confidence—they feel it. They’re inspired by it. Because your confidence isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being committed to the goal. To the journey. To the shared dream.
Confidence isn’t the end game. It’s the byproduct of showing up, working on your A-Game, and doing the thing that actually matters. The more you show up, the more you build that competence, the more your confidence will grow—not just for you, but for everyone watching.
That’s what makes you unstoppable. And that’s why confidence, when it’s rooted in your A-Game, is contagious.
Many People Think I’m a Genius—Here’s Why You Could Be Too
People often tell me, “You’re a genius.” And maybe they’re right. But here’s the thing—it’s not magic. I do something that many others fail to do. Something you can absolutely do too.
I write a lot.
Writing makes my thinking clear. Without it, my ideas are scattered, blown away like leaves in the wind, forgotten before they take shape.
Writing forces me to sit down, organize, and connect the dots. Rewriting is where I really get to see those ideas—their shape, size, color, even the smell of them. Writing makes them real.
And here’s the best part: when I have conversations with people, I pick up right from where my writing left off. The act of talking through ideas polishes them further, gives them new layers. Then I write about them again, refining them even more.
It’s a cycle. I write, I talk, I write some more. And through that process, the ideas grow sharper, more complete. A genius creates, and by that definition, maybe I am a genius. Because I create constantly.
I create ideas, give them shape through writing, and then bring them to life through conversation. When I present—often impromptu—it’s like I’m packaging those ideas, turning them into something others can understand, use, and run with. As a trainer, most of my speaking is impromptu. I get asked questions about scenarios I’ve never experienced before. People throw problems at me that I’ve never even heard of.
But somehow, I can connect my thinking to their problems. Why? Because I’ve already been through the process of creating those thoughts, shaping them, and making sense of them in different ways. And even though I’ve never faced their exact challenge, the thinking I’ve done gives me the foundation to respond.
Most solutions you come up with may not even be for you. You’re creating solutions that others need. Right now. And those solutions become useful only when you publish or present them. It’s not enough to keep them in your head or on your laptop. You have to share them. Because someone, somewhere, needs exactly what you’ve created, right at this moment.
The process is simple: write, refine, speak, repeat. Every step sharpens your thinking, and with every iteration, you’re getting closer to genius. The more you create, the more you have to give. And the more you give, the more your ideas take shape and become valuable—not just to you, but to everyone else.
So, yes, maybe I am a genius. But not because I’m special. Because I create. And so can you.
Confidence Is Contagious: How Creating Fuels It
Confidence comes from creating.
When I write, when I take the time to really sharpen my thoughts, that’s when the magic happens. Writing forces you to connect the dots, to see your ideas in full color. And the more you refine those ideas, the more confidence you build—not because you’re “naturally confident,” but because you’ve put in the work.
Now, here’s the kicker: when you present those ideas—whether it’s in a meeting, a workshop, or even on the fly—people don’t just hear your words. They feel your confidence. And that’s why it’s contagious. Confidence doesn’t come from having all the answers. It comes from knowing you’ve done the thinking, the creating. You’ve connected the dots. You’ve built something solid.
This ties directly to impromptu speaking. When you’ve spent time creating—whether through writing, refining, or just thinking deeply about problems—you’re prepared. Even if the situation throws a curveball, you’ve already laid the groundwork. You’re not scrambling for words. You’re pulling from a place of competence. And that’s where real confidence lives.
Confidence isn’t about perfection. It’s about preparation. When you’ve taken the time to create—when you’ve worked through your thoughts, connected them to real-world problems—you can speak with clarity. You can step into the spotlight and own the moment, even when it’s impromptu.
And here’s the cool part: when people see you speak with that kind of clarity, they feel it. They know you’re not just winging it. They trust you. They start to believe in what you’re saying because they can see you believe it yourself. Your confidence spreads, and suddenly, the whole room is leaning in.
That’s how it works. You create, you build, and then when you present, your confidence becomes contagious. People don’t need to know all the work you’ve put in behind the scenes—they just feel it when you deliver.
Your A-Game isn’t just about being great at something. It’s about creating something valuable—solutions, ideas, whatever it is—and then confidently sharing that with others. The more you create, the more your confidence grows. And the more you put that confidence on display, the more people catch on to it. They start to believe in your ideas, your solutions, your message.
People tell me I’m a genius because I can think on my feet. But it’s not about being born with it. It’s about the process. I’ve done the work. I’ve thought it through. I’ve written, I’ve rewritten, and when I step up to speak, the confidence is already there—because I’ve created something real.
Confidence comes from creating, and the more you create, the more contagious that confidence becomes. It’s not magic. It’s the work behind the scenes that makes it all happen in front of the crowd.
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