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Personal Development: How to Become Your Awesome Best

Personal development is a discipline and a continuing quest to transform yourself to become the best you can be. Some authors call personal development personal mastery, personal excellence, self-improvement, and self-leadership.

Leaders who pursue personal development are not satisfied with the status quo. I call it inspirational dissatisfaction. These leaders believe in daily awesomeness and that they can turn mistakes into mastery.

May this guide help you on your journey.

What Is Personal Development?

Personal development is a lifelong process of becoming your damnedest best. It is common to think of personal development as self-improvement. In self-improvement, you apply ways to improve your knowledge, skills, and attitude. But personal development is not only acquiring all these. Personal development is a journey to self-transformation.

You can transform your life by pursuing personal development. It is not as difficult as most people imagined.

65-year-old Zig told us that personal development is a lifelong pursuit. He said that he has his 10-year personal development plan.

16-year-old Jazz wants to start early to be the person she wants to be. She does not believe that someone needs to be ready to get started. To be prepared is to start when you are not yet an expert.

Age doesn’t matter. What matters is that you decide to keep on growing and become your damnedest best.

God has given you the gifts to be the master of your fate and the captain of your soul.

Some readers visit this page to look for a personal development speaker. Some of you are looking for seminars on professional growth. Managers and supervisors want to introduce personal development to employees.

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Move up. Always.

Why Leaders Pursue Personal Development

Good leaders are very passionate about personal development. Therefore, there must be something about personal development that these leaders know.

Here’s why: Leaders pursue personal development to become effective.

Effective leaders do not pursue personal excellence because they are effective leaders. Instead, they are effective leaders because they pursue personal development.

And why is this important?

This means that you and I do not have to be extra-ordinary to design our destiny.

An ordinary person like Jef Menguin can pursue personal development. And because he pursues it, he will grow better and better each day. One day he will become a new person.


This is true for an average guy like me. This is true for you.

You can become a better person — a better leader — by making one tiny step each day. You can start anytime. You can start next month or next week. You can start today. The choice is yours.

So, how do you do that?

aspects of personal development
Aspects of Personal Development

Insights on Personal Development

Many good people are contented with good enough. They don’t seek personal growth. They have wishes too, but they don’t care enough.

Even if you provide them with the information, it does not mean that they’ll do something.

Spending three hours each day on Facebook will provide volumes of information. But spending time on Facebook or Netflix, or Twitter won’t make us change.

Because we do not need much information. We need inspiration.

Allow me to share with you three insights about personal development.

It begins with dissatisfaction.

Dissatisfaction makes good leaders pursue personal development.

I was born to an impoverished family. My father was a construction worker; my mother was a laundrywoman. Both did not have regular jobs. When I was young, on some occasions, we only managed to eat once a day — even on holidays.

For many of us in the slums, life was predictable. Most of us would grow old like most of our parents: poor and powerless.

You got the idea.

Listen. Not everyone who was born into poverty will leave it. Sure, people complain a lot. Many believe that the fault is in the stars — or in the politicians who bought their votes.

People who pursue personal development are dissatisfied with their situations. No power on earth could make them stay with the status quo.

At the age of nine, I saw the future for me. I would drop out of school. I would marry at a young age, be a drug addict, or would have died young. My future was predictable.

At age twelve, I decided to change the course of my destiny. I was both dissatisfied and inspired.

I did not like what I saw. And I was inspired to create the life I desired.

People cry every time I tell my story. But they do not need to cry for me. One does not have to be poor to be miserable. It is a misery to wallow in mediocrity.

Inspirational dissatisfaction makes us move to change your life.

I don’t know you — but I know that there are situations that you want to change in life.

It might be that you want to find a cure for cancer — and you are looking for opportunities to get people to support you.

It might be that you are sick-and-tired of politicians. Yet, you believe that you can serve people better by getting yourself elected to office.

It might be that you see ugly squared buildings everywhere. And you want to inspire creativity and artistry.

It might be that you have a decent job and you receive a decent salary. But you have unused talents and big dreams. And you do not want to wait any longer. You want to make things happen now.

You can.

You can.

You can.

Do you need to be intelligent?

You do not have to be intelligent to pursue personal development.

Sometimes, being intelligent is an obstacle. Intelligent people talk to themselves too much. That’s not the problem. The problem is that they believe themselves.

Logic paralyzes them. Limiting world views imprison them.

They don’t take risks. They strive to place themselves in “good” situations. They play same-same, slow and safe.

This world was not changed by intelligent people. People who are inspirationally dissatisfied change the world.

Personal development is a heart decision.

Remember, logic does not move people. Emotion does.

Pause for a moment. Think about all the things in your life that you are very dissatisfied with. Write your answers. I will wait for you.

Are you done?

Over the years, I have delivered hundreds of speeches and run dozens of workshops on personal excellence. Today, I usually focus on six topics that interest my clients most:

How to Create a Sense of Urgency
How to Encourage Accountability
How to Inspire Initiative at Work
How to Cultivate Malasakit in the Workplace
How to Become Happy and Productive
How to Start Your Tiny Positive Habits

Each time I deliver, I grow. I remind myself not to be complacent, not to be okay with good enough.

I seek to spread awesomeness. My aim is not to become the best because there is always someone better than us. What I seek is to do my damnedest best always.

Personal excellence is a constant reinvention of self. And when you invite me, I will tell you the same thing. Nothing less.

Then I will tell you what you can do when inspired dissatisfaction moved you.

It is inspired by the experience of awesomeness.

Personal development helps you discover your superpowers.
Personal Development: Discover Your Ability to Fly

You want what’s best.

I also have tried tools and techniques in personal development.

Visualization. Affirmation. Mantra. Productivity apps. Life hacks.

These tools are interesting. But for the most part, these tools can help you move like a headless chicken.

Because a person who has a purpose does not have to visualize and imagine the unreal. They do not need to convince themselves every day. They do not have to paint pictures of fantastic days.

They don’t only imagine, they do their damndest best.

If you are a salesman, grow your knowledge about your profession. Understand how people buy. Have complete and unequal expertise about your products and services. Find everything there is that will make you the trusted advisor of your clients.

Be an awesome salesperson.

If you are a manager, grow your knowledge about your business. Master what everyone knows about your industry. Find out what managers do in other sectors. Study performance psychology and learn what motivates people. Learn management principles and strategies. Find out the simplest and best ways to make things happen. Attend seminars on leadership. Buy books on training and coaching, and mentoring. Find ways to stand out. Stay ahead.

Be an awesome manager.

If you are a teacher, distinguish yourself. Be the best resource for your students. You cannot give them what you do not have. Read books. Study teaching strategies. Practice active learning approaches, then create your own approach. Make the most of your time. Encourage your students. Join Toastmasters and communicate better. You can impact the world. Impact the world faster, cheaper, simpler, and better.

Be an awesome teacher.

If you are a priest, master your catechism. Practice what you preach for impact. Study what people want and need. Give it to them, or at least show them how to get it. Every week, every day, you have opportunities to change people’s lives. Prepare them not only for heaven. Equip them for a better life here on earth. Model the way. Work, work, work like St Paul. Work, work, work like Jesus the Carpenter. Don’t be contented with what people give you. Be the giver.

Be an awesome priest.

If you are a speaker, study people. We are not in the speaking business; we are in the business of helping people. Our success is not dependent on our platform skills or marketing campaigns. Our success is anchored on our ability to provide the best help to our clients. Don’t just make them laugh. Give them concrete solutions. Attend seminars. Watch other speakers. Read books. Study everything that your clients need to know. Show them pure and unadulterated intellectual firepower. Be their most trusted advisor.

Be an awesome speaker.

Personal development is the pursuit of awesomeness. You want to become your best.

Awesomeness is a lifestyle. You have to choose it. Because if you don’t pick awesomeness, personal development will not make sense.

But if you want to become your best, you won’t need motivational quotes to move you. Instead, people will quote you because you infect people with your enthusiasm and energy.

People who pursue personal development spread awesomeness. They grow their knowledge about their profession and their vocation. They blaze the trail. They help others become successful.

It gets easier by learning from mistakes.

Personal development insight: Leaders from your mistakes.
Learn from your mistakes.

I am not yet done.

What I will tell you next is of great importance that you have to read them word for word:

Your mistakes will show you the road to mastery. So, make more mistakes.

In short, create your OWN formula for success.

I have made more mistakes than most people can imagine. However, each mistake taught me valuable lessons.

If you continue reading my articles, you will understand.

Your mistakes will give you valuable education, which no speaker can provide you. I share my stories because I want you to remember yours — and learn what I have done with my experience.

You can create your own formula and turn your mistakes into mastery.

Pursue personal development so you can become the person you really want to be.

Invest in Personal Development

Someone posted on Facebook that for the last three years, he invested 125,000 dollars in personal development. Comments were mixed. Most thought that he overpaid people to tell him what he already knew. Others said that the mere fact that he has to brag about how much he spent, his investment did not help him.

The only reason that I cannot spend 125,000 dollars on personal development is that I am not a multimillionaire. 

Remember, Lady Gaga offered half a million dollars for the return of her two stolen dogs. People pay money for what matters to them. 

I do not quarrel with people who will spend a million dollars on personal development. And I believe that’s the point of the FB post.

I learned about personal development when I was in first-year high school. 

I will tell you how my learning journey began.

I just came out from the Annex of Antipolo Municipal High School. I was on my way to ML Quezon Avenue when I noticed a garage sale.  

I saw old books which were 5 and 10 pesos. I even got some books for two pesos each. 

I bought eight books that include 

  • On Writing Well by William Zinsser, 
  • Elements of Style by William Strunk, 
  • Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, 
  • On Selling (I forgot the author),
  • a book on world history, 
  • one on homeopathy (only because it sounds interesting), 
  • one on speaking with confidence, and 
  • How to Make Friends and Influence People by Carnegie. 

My mother was surprised when I brought home two plastic bags filled with books. When she asked me how I got them all, I told her that I used my tricycle allowance.

I spent most of my one-week allowance on these books. That meant that I had to stay away from the canteen during recess time. 

I also have to walk on my way home for five consecutive days (2.4 kilometers). I bargained my one-week allowance for ideas that impact my thinking until today. Yes, the money wasn’t huge. But it was all I had.

No price is too high for personal development. It multiplies every peso you invest in.

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