Some experts claim that values are neither positive nor negative. Others say values are inherently positive, and negative values are simply behaviors that violate positive values.
We can choose to debate these things. We can also agree that we name values as positive or negative so that we can have a common understanding of how we call them.
Nationalism, for example, is often expressed in many ways. But there were wars between countries because of nationalism. Imperialists believe it is their right and responsibility to govern other countries for the sake of their nation. Imperialism is the extreme side of nationalism.
I have mentioned bayanihan as an antidote to kanya-kanya and tayo-tayo.
We have bayanihan because we unite for a common cause. We can say the same for kanya-kanya and tayo-tayo. One group of people unite against others.
This means that some values are more important and beneficial to humanity than others. A value system is negative if practicing them harms others.
Ningas-Kugon
Ningas-kugon gets a bad rap, and I get why. It’s when someone kicks off something with a bang but then interest fizzles out fast. You see it a lot with politicians, right? They start off promising you the moon, but then nothing much happens after that.
This happens a lot with personal projects too. We dive in, super pumped to get going, but then that excitement drops off. Sometimes, it feels like we just don’t have the discipline to see things through. Or maybe, we’re not quite sure how to wrap things up.
But here’s another take on ningas-kugon—it’s not all bad. It’s got its upsides. Think about it: it takes guts to start something new, especially when you’re not sure how to finish. This is what entrepreneurs do all the time. They jump in, figure things out along the way, and keep tweaking until they nail it.
I’ve been there myself, starting things I don’t always finish, especially when I realize they’re not worth more of my time. Instead of sticking to a sinking ship, I shift gears and look for new opportunities. That’s key to staying flexible and innovative.
The trick is understanding why you started something in the first place. If you know your ‘why,’ it can keep you going when the going gets tough and help you stay on track to finish what you started.
So yes, while ningas-kugon can be a hurdle, it can also be a valuable lesson in disguise. Starting simple and being clear about your motivations can help you turn a potential flop into a real win.
Crab Mentality
Crab mentality, also known as the crab theory or crabs in a bucket mentality, is that frustrating way of thinking we sum up with “if I can’t have it, neither can you.” It’s not just in the Philippines—this mindset is universal. It is everywhere.
The idea comes from what happens with crabs in a bucket. If one crab starts climbing out, the others pull it back down, ensuring nobody gets out. It’s a pretty stark metaphor for how people sometimes behave when they see someone else succeeding.
I’ve felt this firsthand. There were times when it seemed like some folks were trying to drag me down just because they didn’t want to be left behind. It’s tough when you feel that the better you do, the more resistance you face.
This behavior is all about people in a group who, driven by jealousy or resentment, might try to undermine someone else’s confidence or success. Why? Often just to keep them from getting ahead, even when there’s nothing to gain from it.
In the workplace, this can show up in various ways. Ever heard someone being called “epal” for standing out, or experienced “smart shaming”? That’s crab mentality’s close relatives at work.
Another saying that hits home is “ang punong mabunga ang madalas batuhin,” which means the fruit-bearing tree gets stoned the most. Basically, if you’re doing well, be ready for criticism.
It’s a tough cycle, but recognizing it is the first step in making sure we don’t fall into the same trap.
Hiya
Hiya is a big deal in our culture, right? It means feeling shame or embarrassment. This fear can really stop you from standing out or chasing your dreams because you’re scared of failing or worrying about what others think.
And there’s a twist. If you don’t show hiya, people might call you “walang hiya,” which means shameless. Slip up, and you might hear whispers about being “kahiya-hiya,” or disgraceful. No wonder so many of us just keep to ourselves rather than risk bringing shame on us or our families.
But here’s the good news: you can overcome hiya. Start by boosting how you see yourself. Recognize that you’re worthy of respect. When you focus on contributing positively to others’ lives, there’s no reason to feel ashamed.
That’s why I created “Fear Less,” a workshop aimed at helping professionals speak up confidently. It’s all about finding your voice and shedding that fear of public speaking.
Sometimes, hiya is just plain shyness, not a deep flaw. Often, what we need are better social skills to confidently interact with others.
3 More Negative Filipino Values
Bahala na is like saying “let it be.” Some people use it to mean they do not worry too much about planning or fixing problems. They just hope things will work out on their own. This can make it hard to prepare well or to take charge when needed.
Pakikisama means trying to get along with everyone. It’s good to be nice, but sometimes people go too far. They might agree with everyone else even when they think something different. This can stop people from saying what they really think or feel.
Utang na Loob is about being thankful when someone helps you. But sometimes, it can make people feel they have to do something in return, even if they don’t want to or it’s not right. This can make it hard for them to say no or to do what they really think is best.
These values are part of Filipino culture. Sometimes they are good, but sometimes they can make things difficult. It’s important to think about how we use them in our lives. You can learn more about these ideas on my website where I talk more about each one.
