Speak to connect.

Connect rather than impress. The shortest distance between two persons is connection.

A person who always aims for impression is insecure. And maybe you are. You cannot erase insecurity by showing off. A show off is deemed selfish.

Everyone will smell you. The wiser ones will tolerate you to a certain extent. Others will drive you or run away from you.

His name is Virgil. I noticed that he is obsessed to get everyone’s attention. During meetings, he speaks in English, though everyone including his boss speaks in Filipino. He uses words and phrases which are not normally used by Filipinos in conversations.

His co-workers privately joke about their need to bring a thesaurus. He never made an effort to connect to them.

It is common for new employees to seek opportunities to impress their coworkers. But they do not need to do that. If they are really impressive, their co-workers will soon notice.

You must begin by connecting to them.

It is common for new leaders who are yet to prove their worth to their new followers. But, no. Do not brag about your past accomplishments. You do not have to show that you are foreign educated and have learned the foreign accent.

If you are great, they shall soon see your results. Begin by connecting to your people. Speak so they will understand.

Speak to connect.


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About Jef Menguin

Hello, my name is Jef Menguin, I am a leadership advisor and speaker and the President of CCLMG.

I am sharing with you my secret ideas and effective tools in personal development with the hope that you’ll use them and eventually share with others. I share some of these ideas in my keynote speeches in the Philippines and abroad.

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